Thursday, September 24, 2009

Singled Out

Name - Mariya Mubarak
Age - 23
Marital Status - Single
My single status has come under much criticism of late. Why? Because everybody believes it is high time I got hitched. My parents are on a mission, very determined they are. I have nothing against the idea of getting married but it is mystifying how much it seems to affect others perception about me. At any social gathering or family get together, the topic of me getting married invariably comes up. I am asked by at least one person "So, are you engaged?" to which I say with gritted teeth and a brad smile "NO" And then that person gives me stiff smile and I can almost read their thoughts which would probably be ranging from - "Ah! Something is wrong with the girl" "OH! She must be having an "affair" with a guy outside the community" "My God, the girls these days.." so on and so forth.
My mother, when I'm having the most general of conversations with her, she skillfully steers the talk to youknowhat. And, I with equal skill make an escape.
Yes, I will get married..sooner or later. I have even met prospective grooms and even genuinely liked one, BUT, just liking isn't enough isn't it? Or.. Is it? How does it work in an arranged marriage scenario? How come it seems so effortless in other people's case and not so in mine? There's got to be some spark, trigger, chemistry, or even the teeniest of signs right?
I hate to see my parents under so much pressure from family and society. Outside the social setup we are in, they wouldn't be in the same panic mode no? I have a truckload of questions, the answers to which elude me.

13 comments:

Buffy said...

don't fret dearie...most girls go through this stage. This is not to make you feel better...just an assurance that you will pass it with flying colors :)

Anonymous said...

Swayamwar?????

Confused Musings said...

:) Hey.. I can more than relate to your post.. I am going through the EXACT thing and I feel YHEW!!!!
But i guess if we hold on ... someday it will make sense..

Mariya said...

@Confused Musings Hah! Glad I'm not alone :)

Shabbir Hussain said...

My Aunt asks, "Why don't you get married baba!".

I reply, "I'd love to, but Section 377 doesn't let me".

Puffffff. And they just disappear.

Mariya said...

@Shabbir Hussain Whoa! BUt i thought its legal now :p why don u tell her that

Shabbir Hussain said...

@Mariya. I'd love to. Then what if she turns her heart and starts searching for one. You know guys in India... Their wardrobe just isn't all that great!

Hussain Haidry said...

Well, my folks say that I should've been engaged two years ago (when I was 22) and should've been married by now. Two of my friends are about to be fathers in a couple of months; 10 out of my 13 Bohra friends are engaged -- so much for peer pressure.

And, now that I have a job and all, it's become all the more urgent. So much for 'career aspirations and all that kind of rubbishy stuff'. :-l

Mariya said...

@Hussain Haidry Hey!I'm surprised that even Bohri guys face the same pressure :-| Sigh!

Juzer said...

The next time anyone asks you "Any good news?", try going, "Yes, it's my third month running" :p My guess is the expression on their faces will be priceless

Juzer said...

And p.s., like Buffy said, don't worry.. you will pass with flying colors.. Sabar ka fal meetha hota hai, remember? ;)

Niju Mohan said...
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Niju Mohan said...

Nice thoughts, seems like waiting for the one...

Read http://blog.nijumohan.com/2009/12/05/ive-been-looking-for-the-perfect-girl/